RE: Control

A friend of mine recently posted a blog regarding the issue of "control." Her post discussed allowing others to control your actions, your character, your spirituality and even your relationships. One piece that I found missing, however, was the control you have over yourself.

No one can control your actions, words, beliefs, or character other than you. So why then do we blame others for our behavior and our emotions? While it is true that someone can influence these things in you, ultimately, the control lies within yourself. We are slaves to the perfect image that we have in our minds of who and what we should be. This is most definitely true for me in the physical sense as it relates to my daily battle with an eating disorder. I can hear how beautiful someone thinks I am but in the end if I choose to believe that I do not meet my expectations I can only blame myself.

If I tell myself that I do not measure up to the standards of those around me or the expectations that others have for me I am the only one to blame for believing them. If I choose to let my past control me regardless of how chaotic and flat out "screwed up" it may be I am the one to blame. We are in charge of our emotions, behavior, words, attitude, relationships, character and spirituality. No one can take that control away from us.

Eventually, we have to make the decision to not let others or our past control us. The truth of the matter is, you choose how you wish to live and who you want to be. I am learning that in the end God will always be, the way, the truth, the light. It's time for all of us to "let go and let God."